tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7154679782170119347.post4375144432276888977..comments2023-11-16T06:56:25.495-04:00Comments on Blog - Susan Black Art: out of controlSusanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00260575133577123845noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7154679782170119347.post-4895458205758677972010-04-06T16:10:19.715-03:002010-04-06T16:10:19.715-03:00"In the six months I've known him he has ..."In the six months I've known him he has been quietly and steadily gathering up all those things (tiny & big) that I worried so much about ... and he's put them away somewhere. "<br />--you mean as he;s taken care of them they are now off your list and done, or do you mean he's helped you to see them in a different way? <br /><br />BTW, Susan, not sure you go back adn read any of these comments, but just an FYI: I actually went out and bought that book last night from Barnes & Noble. Looks good. It will be here in a week. I checked the library first but it was a first edition older one with non e of the new sections that I think I'd get a lot out of. thanks for the heads up on this.Michaelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17712046924863763290noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7154679782170119347.post-4011915516879222382010-04-05T17:21:44.863-03:002010-04-05T17:21:44.863-03:00So, what are you, a "Hedgehogs" perhaps?...So, what are you, a "Hedgehogs" perhaps? Sounds like a good book. Great .Michaelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17712046924863763290noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7154679782170119347.post-15803149013192731712010-04-05T17:13:13.373-03:002010-04-05T17:13:13.373-03:00And, yes, it is so very exhausting. I will find my...And, yes, it is so very exhausting. I will find myself up for hours on end when I should be sleeping too. UGH!!Michaelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17712046924863763290noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7154679782170119347.post-83887968951546878712010-04-05T17:12:12.496-03:002010-04-05T17:12:12.496-03:00Even though this post touches on some jarring stuf...Even though this post touches on some jarring stuff, it is so lovely in it;s ownway. I really was moved by this line in particular:<br />"I'm one of those people who, almost subconsciously, believes that worrying will form a bubble of protection around any potential worrisome item"<br />--how very funny. Hmm...I do that too but yet know it won't help one bit. It never helps but am addicted to that pit feeling of worry in my belly. Ugh.Michaelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17712046924863763290noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7154679782170119347.post-91647125641264380062010-04-04T02:50:09.298-03:002010-04-04T02:50:09.298-03:00I like your cowboy. If he were telling me to let ...I like your cowboy. If he were telling me to let it be while I wanted to worry, I probably wouldn't like him in the moment. LOL But, overall, hmm...yeah. What if there isn't anything to worry about - not even THAT THING I constantly obsess over... hmm...Making Spacehttp://makingspacethejourneyout.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7154679782170119347.post-73443555980302239592010-04-03T16:09:20.116-03:002010-04-03T16:09:20.116-03:00I've just gotten up from a lovely Saturday aft...I've just gotten up from a lovely Saturday afternoon nap/read dans la nest of down and flannel (avec les chats-all 3 of them). I finished the book Julie & Julia which was very good and it occurred to me, while sipping my still tucked in "let's wake up and get up again" coffee, that I neglected to give credit to the cowboy for helping SO much to ease my issues around needing (desperately) at times to control most everything. In the six months I've known him he has been quietly and steadily gathering up all those things (tiny & big) that I worried so much about ... and he's put them away somewhere. He's taking care of them so I don't have to - it's not much wonder I'm freakin' crazy in love with him.<br /><br />Off now to clean out the neglected teal wagon. It's a gorgeous tres warm, sunny Spring day here in this little village. Merci for the comments - as always.Susanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00260575133577123845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7154679782170119347.post-45555170907232083902010-04-03T13:16:35.267-03:002010-04-03T13:16:35.267-03:00"If you surrender to the wind, you can ride i..."If you surrender to the wind, you can ride it." ~Toni MorrisonYolihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06068063513978782703noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7154679782170119347.post-48427356457820267192010-04-03T12:18:02.558-03:002010-04-03T12:18:02.558-03:00Sounds like he's pretty good for you!Sounds like he's pretty good for you!Pamela Terry and Edwardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12746603636884819522noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7154679782170119347.post-33678869577608490012010-04-03T11:49:56.107-03:002010-04-03T11:49:56.107-03:00The reason why the walls of our heads are so thick...The reason why the walls of our heads are so thick is because nobody is supposed to see the mess inside. I've got a special mental poking stick for not letting it be. It's mighty sharp. I understand the Cowboy's practice in theory but some of our Not Letting It Be (NLIB) muscles are strong and lean with continued use. I'm not sure how I could let it be.<br /><br />I look forward to your experience in trying.Big Shamuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15297361034783510191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7154679782170119347.post-89730288403382248082010-04-03T10:36:08.167-03:002010-04-03T10:36:08.167-03:00I always thought I was too Judy. I always consider...I always thought I was too Judy. I always considered myself to be quite a "chilled out", relaxed person. I was telling MLou that past opinion of myself recently and she laughed (and laughed and laughed). The type of control I'm speaking about is almost completely invisible - it barely ever shows itself outside of it's cozy home in one's mind. Rarely do your acquaintances and co-workers see "it" the bad control - they see efficiency, an eagerness to please, punctuality, a person who appears to have their shit very together. They see a whole raft of good control things, but oh my thank goodness they can't see what's really going on inside that head. The only reason I can see the bad kind of control now, the one that does cause anxiety and depression, is because of how much it's made me suffer - how totally exhausting it can be and feel. And now that I've seen "it" I realize it's been with me a long, long time.Susanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00260575133577123845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7154679782170119347.post-53622624815440380112010-04-03T10:09:03.594-03:002010-04-03T10:09:03.594-03:00I've never really thought about it before, but...I've never really thought about it before, but I think I may be the queen of "let it be". To me, control is but an illusion.judy in kyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05810068743975026564noreply@blogger.com