Saturday, August 17, 2013
lilliput zinnias - sigh they make my heart sing / Oliver chillaxin' / barnacle love / haven-ating in the lush backyard avec les chiens / long Skype chat with much loved nephew Michael / coral pink begonias / cat circle - Gussie in his pillow topped high rise pad atop the clothes drying rack / more puddle love / queen's anne's lace with fishing boat / walking meditation / I made cabbage rolls with swiss chard from the garden / oh my, those apricot roses again
Don’t Take Anything Personally Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.
No. 2 of The Four Agreements - Don Miguel Ruiz
Mean people. You know the types I'm talking about, chances are you run into at least one of them almost daily. People who can be rude, critical, sarcastic, grumpy, disrespectful, inconsiderate, hurtful, argumentative ... & sometimes just plain ol' mean. They are my bane. They are my thorn. They hurt me deeply. I let them hurt me deeply. I always take it personally, I don't know how not to ... I can't seem to make myself not take it personally and it drives me crazy.
An incident or an encounter with a mean person can and most often does stick to me like thick, hot, goopy tar. Hours later I will still be replaying the words (or lack of them, those icy cold shoulder events) over and over and over in my head. Ruminating, wondering what could I possibly have done to deserve such treatment ? my initial hurt feelings when whipped up by my mind's frenzy quickly turn to anger & indignation becoming thornier & thornier thoughts.
In my smart brain I do believe it's true that I shouldn't take anything personally & also that I should never ever make assumptions but I cannot for the life of me seem to convince my heart brain of these two realities. My feelings become cut to the quick ... quickly. Oh my (sad face), how do you deal with mean people?
Don’t Make Assumptions Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.
No. 3 of The Four Agreements - Don Miguel Ruiz
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